I began this post in June after my adult daughter and I took two weeks of vacation, flying west and driving from Portland, Oregon down to Big Sur on the California coast. I had planned this trip for the better part of a year and yet I felt urgency in leaving when I did. I had begun to sense a muteness around my soul as I was praying for others, some of whom were doing gloriously exciting things before they landed in the hospital where I, their chaplain, met them and those who love them.
I realized I was experiencing envy of lives led. This made me think of how our bishop often says before the final blessing and dismissal, “Life is Short.” Being older than what can reasonably be assumed will be middle age, I knew this, but I could not hear it until I discovered my vocation as a hospital chaplain. My presence at lives’ thresholds opened onto thoughts about my own life and death, and my longing for both vacation and vocation stretched like a winding road lining sea and sky.
“Vocation is the place where our deep gladness meets the world's deep need,” is Frederick Buechner’s much-quoted observation. To me vocation is where one senses she is beheld in what she beholds. Deeply personal and particular; vocation is an offering of self released to its own existence (such as a piece of art) and encountered freely by others as it finds its way back to the Creator of all.
Lived out in context, we all have certain vocations, such as friendship. First stop on our trip west, I met someone in person for whom I have had the vocation of spiritual director over Zoom, and in her and our daughters’ presence I encountered my own deep gladness once again. My gladness continued down the coast, especially in the presence of birds, loving each species vicariously through my daughter’s vocation to them.
We met visionary founder of the Chalice of Repose Project Therese Schroeder-Sheker at her school of Music-Thanatology. I had first met her on Zoom in 2023 as facilitator for her Lenten and Advent retreats offered through Cathedral Arts. Entering the enclosure of meditative beauty of walls hung with art and shelves with sculpture and books, we approached a window on a garden frequented by hummingbirds and sat down. Seeing the color of Therese’s cheeks in natural light was like reading a poem in its original language I had only known in translation.
Just now, I read Garden Gate, her essay originally written for Jesus the Imagination. I experienced it as a repotting of my soul after the wild growth of a chaplaincy residency and found roots to write from again. Through Therese’s vocation of beauty in music, writing and scholarship; her love of Eucharist, theology, monasticism, poetry, and remembering those who have died; and her lifting up the sophianic and agapeic, I regained my courage in the art of binding and loosening; concealing and revealing the gift of a vision given; and the deep gladness of being beheld by what I behold.
We ended our west coast trip by staying with my childhood friend who, after ten years of physical distance, I have seen three times in the last year as if pausing to sing the Sanctus in what God made an inherently good life. Two weeks ago, I picked her up where she was staying in White Plains, NY, and we drove to a small non denominational church I have known about for decades, but never visited. The rose window was designed by Henri Matisse, and the others by Marc Chagall.
For some of us, all roads seem to lead back to the Cathedral, which this weekend hosts Evensong for the Feast of Our Lady of Walsingham. This annual event marks our celebration of the ecumenical place of pilgrimage in England dating back to 1061, as well as the covenantal friendship of Albany’s’ two cathedrals. Fr Samuel Bellafiore, who has shared poetry with us and contributed to this blog, will be the guest preacher.
A recent YouTube video by historian Dr. Kat in her series on “Pregnancy in the Past: Pregnancy, Pilgrimage, and Prayer” offers a female perspective on this feast. She considers how English women during the Reformation might have been affected by the loss of Catholic practices and rituals during childbirth, and illustrates the importance of devotion to the Virgin Mary by offering a history of the popular shrine at Walsingham, which was destroyed in 1538 and rebuilt in the last century.
On October 25 I will be offering a Grief and Meaning Making group on Zoom. Grief is a vocation we all have in this life, and while each grief is unique we all possess creative ability for making meaning and growing in connection with the love, truth, goodness and beauty behind each loss. This will be a gentle environment for meditation with writings and art for moving ahead in our process from whatever point we find ourselves in it. Sign-up is through our website.
Here at the Cathedral of all Saints we are also getting ready to offer in November much-needed ESL (English as a Second Language) classes, and our Annual Bible Symposium followed by Evensong for our All Saints’ Day Feast of Title. This weekend also offers a special dinner with Bible Symposium speaker The Rev. Dr. Shane Patrick Gormley and the dean of our cathedral, The Very Rev. Fr. Leander S. Harding, PhD.
Our Festival of Nine Lessons and Carols is planned for December 17, and it is getting cold enough for me to believe it, while the trees warm my sight with the fire of their leaves.
May your vision for what lies ahead be warmed, and may God’s peace be with you.